January 20th, 2012

demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction until they form a strong emotional connection with someone, often (but not always) in a romantic relationship. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being “halfway between” sexual and asexual. Nevertheless, this term does not mean that demisexuals have an incomplete or half-sexuality, nor does it mean that sexual attraction without emotional connection is required for a complete sexuality. In general, demisexuals are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender; however, when a demisexual is emotionally connected to (usually in love with but sometimes feel strongly as friends) someone else, the demisexual experiences sexual attraction and desire, but only towards the specific partner or partners.

When describing demisexuality as an orientation to sexuals, sexuals often mistake it as an admirable choice rather than an innate orientation. Demisexuals are not choosing to abstain; they simply lack sexual attraction until a close relationship is formed.

Demisexuality may make forming romantic or sexual relationships more difficult for some people. Demisexuals often make first impressions with sexuals of being “just friends”, which may make the sexual value the relationship less. Demisexuals often have rocky relationships with asexuals because the demisexual’s feelings may become more sexualized with time, which the asexual may find inappropriate or unexpected. In either case, having a better understanding of one’s own orientation and how it differs from one’s partner’s orientation may help facilitate communication to clear up misunderstandings.  

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    I never knew this was a thing. This is me all the way. Now I know why I always fall for my friends.
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    I think I finally found out my true sexuality. Huzzah!
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    What is this doing in my timeline. I identify as demisexual already, wew :V . If you’ve ever thought a stranger was hot,...
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